Sunday, March 4, 2012

The best gifts...

In my lifetime, God has blessed me with some wonderful friends.  Mostly, God has surpised me with friendships that were totally ordained by him.  I'm not one of those people who has friendships from my childhood that have lasted my whole life.  We moved several times when I was growing up.  And I had good friends at each location, but it's hard to keep really close friendships long distance when you are growing up.  I'll admit, there are times when I'm a little jealous of people who have been best friends since they were kids.  That is a gift!  BUT...God has more than made up for that with the friends he has given me over the past twenty years. 

Harrison has several friends that he has known since he was little.  I love looking at pictures of Harrison and Braden when they were toddlers and then seeing them both now that they are six feet tall.  Or Harrison and his buddy Bradley, who even though Brad moved away several years ago, they have truly maintained a good friendship long distance.  I've found the friends Harrison has to be such a blessing.  There is nothing like knowing your children have wonderful friendships. 

And Clara, bless her heart, has been drug around to all her big brother's activities since the minute she came home.  And I'll admit I haven't been as good at fostering close friendships for her.  But God is faithful, even when I'm not.  Harrison and I are people who need that one very best friend.  We have lots of friends, but we need to know that we have that one BFF who has our back no matter what.  Clara...well, she likes to have everyone be best friends.  She includes everybody.  She is the girl I wanted to be best friends with growing up.  She's easy going, everybody loves her, she's forgiving, she doesn't mind sharing.  She's much like my best friend Jenny from junior high and high school. 

It's funny how things work out.  We finally found a flock (small group) at church that was the right fit for us.  It's a family flock.  We meet in someone's home and bring the kids and we eat dinner, worship, study the Word, and pray together.  In the midst of finding this flock, God brought me a friend...another Jenny...who totally gets me.  Now I've been blessed with my "C" friends, Christine and Christi, who not only get me, but love me in spite of me.  And I figured that was pretty generous.  But...God went ahead and gave me another friend as a bonus. 

Well, about 16 months ago, Jenny and her family welcomed their new daughter Lauren into their family.  Lauren was almost five when she came home from China.  She had a "special need"...except someone forgot to tell her that.  Lauren's hands and feet are shaped different from most peoples.  But, that child can do just about anything you can imagine, she is one independent little fire cracker.  She is loud and hilarious and absolutely contagious!  Well, Lauren and Clara have become buddies.  Lauren often calls her buddy "MyClara" when she speaks to or about her.  These two make me laugh.  They had their first sleepover the other night.  And Lauren promptly came down with tap shoes on (did I mention we have brick floors?).  We learned pretty quickly to hide the microphone with the amplifier when Lauren is coming...did I mention she is loud? 

But what I love the most about these two little cuties is how sweet their friendship is.  Clara never tries to mother Lauren.  But she watches and then if Lauren is having trouble doing something with her hands, Clara will sweetly ask "would you like any help?"   One time in the car when they were getting buckled I heard Clara say "it must be kinda hard to do that with just one finger."  Lauren said "yeah, sometimes." It's not because she sees Lauren as having a "special need", it's just Clara's heart to want to help.  And Lauren, she truly loves and appreciates Clara.  She is the picture of happiness when she spies her friend Clara.  The other day Lauren was here and it was beautiful outside.  So the girls were drawing with sidewalk chalk.  I snapped a picture of the girls tracing each others hands.  It is a beautiful picture of their friendship.  You see neither one of them sees the other as different, they just see their friend.  Isn't that how God wants us to see each other?  Just the way He sees us.
                                                     Best Friends

                                            You just never know what they are up to.

Thank you God, for sweet friends!

Tuesday, January 17, 2012

Entitled?

Today I started a new Beth Moore Bible study on the book of James.  Last summer our pastor taught on James.  Man...it hit home!  And I said one night at flock "I think God may have me camp in James for awhile."  Over the past few months I've read in James quite a bit.  And when the opportunity came to do this study, and it fell on a Tuesday (my only full-day for Clara), I knew I really needed to do it. 

So today was the introduction.  And Beth is introducing James and a little history.  And of course, she dives right in.  One thing she said really struck a cord with me.  She said (not an exact quote), "Jesus didn't come bringing entitlement.  He came bringing mercy and grace."  Ouch!  So, the Son of God didn't bring an air of entitlement.  The One and Only who deservedly is entitled brought grace and mercy?  So, our Savior didn't come feeling He was entitled.  He freely gave grace and mercy.  He met with those who needed Him.  He didn't feel he should be driven around in a certain model of donkey?  He didn't fuss if he didn't have 800 thread count sheets on his pallet on the hard floor?  He didn't have a pity party if he didn't get into the school he wanted?  Or get to be in the teacher's class he wanted?  Or be in the small group with his friends at Bible study?  So, does this mean he wasn't offended if someone cut in front of him?  What about if he did some awesome miracle but the story got bumped from the news because of a Charlie Sheen story?

Beth reminded us that Christ didn't come to be a public figure.  He came to be a personal savior.  He did miracles because someone needed a miracle.  Not so he could be noticed or become more famous.  So...if we are representing Christ, don't we need to imitate him?  Shouldn't we approach everyone with grace and mercy...not a sense of entitlement?  Should we give freely and generously, as Christ has given to us?  Even if they aren't "deserving"?  Since I'm certainly not deserving of anything God has done for me.  Beth Moore made a profound statement, "I don't just want to be what I've been delivered from.  I want to be who I am delivered to!"  Amen!  We need to be delivered TO someone, not just FROM something! 

At dinner tonight we discussed a little about entitlement.  We live such an entitled lifestyle.  Think, really think, about what we take for granted that we are entitled to.  Why do my kids get to go to school, but millions of kids around the world don't?  Why do I sleep in a warm bed with a full tummy?  But millions go to bed (and I use that term lightly) hungry everyday.  Those are some of the obvious things.  If you really think about it, what else do you really feel entitled to?  I was humbled and ashamed as I thought about it.  I'm overwhelmed by God's grace and mercy that He has generously poured on me!  Lord, please help me to be mindful, each day, of your grace and mercy in my life.  And please, help me each day to give more and more and more grace and mercy to others.  Don't let this lesson be something I forget in a few days or a few weeks. 

Monday, January 2, 2012

A Year in BOOK Review

You know I love to read.  And I've revealed that I'm a nerd and keep a book journal.  I keep track of all the books I've read, write a little review, and rank them all on a 0-5 scale.  And I admit that now, I make a note if I borrowed the book from someone so that I don't drive myself insane trying to locate it if someone asks me for it.  So, here are the books from 2011 and their ratings. 

1 - "Spoken From the Heart" by Laura Bush  3.75
2 - "Love Walked In" by Marisa DeLos Santos  4.5
3 - "Lipstick in Afghanistan" by Roberta Gateley  4.5
4 - "Faithful Women and Their Extraordinary God" by Noel Piper  3.0
5 - "Death in a Prairie House" by William R. Drennan  3.75
6 - "Your Boy" by Vicki Courtney  4.5 (have read this one before...needed a review)
7 - "Extraordinary Ordinary People" by Condoleeza Rice  4.5
8 - "Black Heels to Tractor Wheels" by Ree Drummond (The Pioneer Woman) 4.0
9 - "Baby We Were Meant for Each Other" by Scott Simon  4.0
10 - "The Personal History of Rachel Dupree" by Ann Weisgarber  4.75
11 - "Saving Levi" by Lisa Misraje Bentley  3.5
12 - "Heaven Is Real" by Todd Burpo  4.25
13 - "We Were the Mulvaneys" by Joyce Carol Oates  (Read more than half but never finished...too slow)
14 - "Decision Points" by George W. Bush  4.25
15 - "Radical" by David Platt  5.0 
16 - "The Help" by Kathryn Stockett  5.0  (I've read this before and was just as wonderful the 2nd time)
17 - "Angel Falls" by Kristin Hannah  3.75
18 - "Water For Elephants" by Sara Gruen  4.25
19 - "Walking Across Egypt" by Clyde Edgerton  4.0
20 - "Hotel on the Corner of Bitter & Sweet" by Jamie Ford  5.0
21 - "The Winds of War" by Herman Wouk  (I've read 500 pages and will finish sometime, it is VERY tedious with details...but the history is great)
22 - "The Book Thief" by Markus Zusak  4.75
23 - "For Time and Eternity" by Allison Pittman  3.5
24 - "The Kitchen House" by Kathleen Grisson  4.5
25 - "Sarah's Key" by Tatiana De Rosnay  5.0
26 - "The Wednesday Letters" by Jason F. Wright  4.0
27 - "Shadow of Ashland" by Terence M. Green  3.75
28 - "I Still Dream About You" by Fannie Flagg  3.75
29 - "Secret Daughter" by Shilpi Somaya Gowda  4.50
30 - "A Lancaster County Christmas" by Suzanne Woods Fisher  3.75
31 - "Kisses from Katie" by Katie David  4.75
32 - "A Stolen Life" by Jaycee Dugard  4.25

My favorite funny line from a book this year was in "Love Walked In"...."If you've ever considered having a conversation about your sex life in a South Philadelphia cheese shop, stop that thought in its tracks right now and wring it's scrawny little neck."

Two of my favorite quotes from "Radical" give me much to think about....."What would happen if together we stopped giving our scraps to the poor and started giving surplus?   What if we started giving not just what we are able to give but beyond what we are able to give?  What if, like the widow in Luke 21 who gave all she had, we began to give what it hurt us to give?  What if we gave like this, not just because of the critical need around us, but because this kind of giving is actually what the heart of Christ in us both demands and desires?'   AND...."Orphans are easier to ignore before you know their names.  They are easier to ignore before you see their faces.  It is easier to pretend they're not real before you hold them in your arms.  But once you do, everything changes."

So many books, so little time!

Saturday, December 24, 2011

Traditions....I love them!

I love Christmas!  And I love traditions.  We didn't have a lot of traditions growing up, so I may have gone a little overboard with my kids.  But I want them to remember these times and hopefully pass a few on to their own kids someday.  What are your favorite Christmas traditions? 

Here are a few of ours...
 - On Christmas Eve we open one gift...always new pajamas for everyone.
 - We also go to church Christmas Eve and read the book "A Tale of Three Trees" each year.
 - We set out cookies and milk for Santa and usually a letter is written to Santa (when they are young enough).
 - Each year we get the kids an ornament that is related to something in their life that year.  I keep a little journal for each of the kids and write down the ornament and why it is significant.  Then someday when they take their ornaments to their own home they can look back at the journal as they put their ornaments on their tree. 
 - When Harrison was little he always slept with us on Christmas Eve (so he wouldn't get up an peek...not that he would EVER do that).  Clara is a better sleeper so she doesn't usually do this.  Now she and Harrison let us know when they are awake and they have to wait at the top of the stairs until we tell them to come down. 
 - Santa fills the kids stockings.  That's really the only credit Santa gets around here.  We don't make a big deal out of him. 
 - Each of us gets only three gifts...since Jesus got gold, frankincense and myrrh. This simplifies Christmas and makes us really think about what we are giving. 
 - For the four of us, I wrap all our gifts in plain paper and paint on them for decoration.  Usually I use brown mailing paper, but this year I used solid red and green.  Harrison requested that I go back to the brown...he likes traditions.  : )
 - When Harrison was in kindergarten we started going to make a Christmas plate each year.  And once Clara got a little bigger she started helping with the plate.  Now I have a whole set of plates with the kids art on them for Christmas.  This is one of our absolute favorite traditions!  As soon as Thanksgiving dinner is done we get the Christmas plates down and use them everyday.  It is so fun!
 - The last couple of years we have gone caroling with our flock (small group) from church here on our street.  This is one of my favorite things that I hope will continue for many years.  I remember piling in the back of a pickup and going caroling as a kid.  I'm glad my kids are making these memories with our sweet flock family. 
 - We always celebrate Christmas with some of our friends too.  Last night we did the annual Merideth Christmas get together.  The Merideths have been kind enough to welcome us into their family.  And we always enjoy getting together and sharing a meal, opening gifts and usually playing Apples to Apples or some other game.  We celebrate Christmas with the Ingles by mail now, since they moved to Texas.  But we used to do the same thing with them when they lived here. 
 - Throughout the Christmas season we have an advent wreath on our dining room table.  Each week we read the meaning of each candle and focus on God's gift of His precious Son.  And on Christmas morning we read the Christmas story in the Bible and light the Christ candle. 
 - Of course, we have a stack of Christmas books that come out after Thanksgiving and we read those throughout the season.  And we try to watch several Christmas movies throughout the month too. 
 - And last year, Joey the Elf joined our Christmas traditions.  Joey is our Elf on The Shelf.  And Clara is CRAZY about him!  It is so fun to watch her try to find him each day.  And I have caught her more than once just talking to Joey, telling her whole life story to him.  This morning I heard her saying "I hope I'm on the nice list, I really try to be nice, but sometimes I'm not."  So fun having a 6 year old in the house! 

I've probably forgotten something.  But those are most of our favorites that we have consistently done for years.  Christmas (not "the holidays") is my favorite time of year.  I love reading the story of Christ's birth in my quiet time over and over during this month.  Seems like I pick up a little something new each year.  What a blessing it is to have the freedom to worship God and celebrate Jesus not only at Christmas, but throughout the year.  Merry Christmas!

Monday, December 19, 2011

Dance Fever

There's been a lot of dancing going on around here.  Okay...Clara dances a lot.  Harrison went to a dance, but I don't think any actual dancing took place.  But that's okay, Clara has done enough dancing for all of us.  In fact, while we were out carolling last night she danced herself right into a mailbox.  And last week she had her winter recital and they did a little jazz dance that was so cute.  They were all darling in their Rudolph antlers.  This is such a fun age! 

Then Saturday night, Harrison went to his first high school winter formal...with a girl.  As you'll see, it involved flowers, suits, and girls in beautiful dresses and fabulous shoes (for the girls...the boys shoes are boring).  It was a little surreal watching these kids, some I've known since early elementary school, looking so grownup.  It was a really fun group and they had a lot of fun.  They tolerated about a million pictures being taken.  Then they all went to Spaghetti Warehouse for dinner, then on to the dance.  As I headed back to Edmond, I only made it about 15 minutes away before I got a text saying they were done with the dance and ready to leave.  So, back I went and they all headed back to the after party at a friend's house to watch a movie and play ping pong.  I'll admit, it's weird having your baby all dressed up in a suit, being almost 6 feet tall, going to a high school dance.  But...it's also really fun enjoying the young man he is becoming. 

                                             Run! Run! Rudolph!
                                                                   Ta Da!
                                                     Our little dancer!!
                              Clara had to get in on the act and appeared in this dress!
                                         Deep thoughts by Harrison and Mason!
                                        Harrison and Jaclyn, Winter Formal 2011
                                     The boys....or should I say men???
                                                  Very cool!
                               Ben is the sock guy....this time he had Christmas socks. 
                                            The whole group...great bunch of teenagers.
                                           My boy cleans up pretty good!
                                          Harrison and Rhett all dressed up for formal.

Sunday, December 4, 2011

Seasons come and seasons go...

As a rule, I love the change of seasons.  Fall is my favorite, all the leaves changing colors.  Of course, spring is a close second, with everything blooming and starting fresh.  And even with my kids, I have enjoyed the seasons they were in, but had fun embracing new seasons.  But I'm sad to see a couple of seasons end. 

You see...my boy isn't playing basketball for the first time since he was four years old.  We went and watched the 9th graders play their first home game the other night.  I'll admit I got a little teary-eyed watching and knowing my big old boy wouldn't be on the court.  It was his choice.  He opted to not go out for the team this year.  Several factors played into that decision.  But, it made me sad.  I loved, loved, loved watching him play basketball!  And it was my sport too.  I wasn't a rock star player, but it was the game I loved.  And I always regretted stopping after 9th grade, not trying a new coach in high school.  More than anything, Harrison loves basketball.  He has played....and played...and played since he was big enough to have a Little Tykes goal in the garage.  When we moved in here and we met new neighbors they would always say "oh you live in the house with the blond-headed kid who is playing basketball 24/7!" 

That darn kid just keeps growing up and making choices on his own.  And he does mature stuff like telling me "Mom, my best shot of getting any kind of athletic scholarship money is for running, not for basketball.  So, I should focus on running.  AND academics of course!"  : )  And the kid can run, he's got some wheels.  And it turns out....the cross country coaches and track coaches have been amazing.  Not to mention the quality kids that he is running with.  So, once again, I entered a new season...one that involves running and lots of it.  Luckily, I can watch him run and never actually have to break a sweat myself.  But I still (sniffle, sniffle) hate saying good-bye to basketball.  Guess I'll have to get Clara signed up next year! 

And the other season ending?  Okay, I know it sounds stupid.  But...I really hate that Clara has moved out of the little girls clothing section.  I know shopping is not a sport.  And clothing your child isn't really a season of life.  BUT...I loved the little girl section at Target...and Gap...and Old Navy.  And moving up to the bigger girls section takes away a lot of the innocence.  Honestly, there a lot of hoochie clothes in the girls section!  My baby is 6, she does not need lace up and down the side of her leggings like a rock star.  She doesn't need suggestive slogans on her t-shirts.  She does not need to be wearing "camis" because all the shirts are low cut or see through.  Why oh why can't they make the little girl section go up to size 8, instead of size 5?  Seriously, they are little girls.  They have their whole lives to grow up (and hopefully not dress like hoochies).  I'm just sayin....it makes me sad! 

Sunday, November 27, 2011

Thanksgiving 2011

Thanksgiving....oh how I love thee....let me count the ways!  I really do love Thanksgiving!  It is my favorite holiday to cook for.  And something about it just makes me smile.  I love the food, the fellowship, the family being home...even the football (to an extent).  As I was cooking the two days before Thanksgiving I was thinking about why I enjoy this holiday so much.  And I realized that some of it is just totally sentimental.  I started planning out my menu and here's what I saw...

Turkey - which I learned how to cook all by myself for my family many years ago...and they love it!
Green Bean Casserole - never had a Thanksgiving without it...or a church potluck dinner for that matter. 
Mashed Potatoes - one of the few things I would eat at Thanksgiving when I was a kid....now I make the Pioneer Woman's version and my family loves them too, even the big kid who wouldn't touch them before.
Nana's Dressing - My bestie Christi's grandma's recipe.  Makes me think of Christi each time I make it, and usually involves a call or text to my friend. 
Broccoli Salad - A favorite that I got from a friend, Lynn, who lived here for a few years and was a wonderful  cook.  Always makes me think of fun times with their family.
Apple Pie - My favorite recipe that I got from Lori, a girl I worked with at GMAC when I was 20 years old.  Still a family favorite (and definitely my favorite).  Reminds me of those first few years out on my own. 
Pumpkin Pie - Always makes me think of Joe's mom Louise, since she loved to bake pies.  This year I tried a new recipe from a new friend at church.
Key Lime Pie - Harrison's favorite.  And Grandma Jean's recipe, which makes me think of her and my dad everytime I make it. 
Fresh Cranberry Sauce - A recipe I got from a Martha Stewart magazine way back when I used to read magazines.   And this year, Clara helped me make it....very fun!

I love that the whole menu pretty much comes from shared experiences with special friends and family.  That's the best way to build your recipe box! 

Another thing I love about Thanksgiving is just the time at the table together with whoever we share the meal with.  We almost always have some international students with us.  This year we had three young men from China here for Thanksgiving dinner.  It was fun to talk about China and compare places we have been.  They are all students in Guangzhou (except for this year while they are at UCO) which is where we spent most of our time in China.  Over the years we have had lots of Japanese students, a few Chinese, one from Taiwan, and one from Sri Lanka.  I'll never forget Apsara, the girl from Sri Lanka.  She was our waitress at Steak and Shake one Sunday.  We struck up a conversation and found out where she was from.  That week she was on my heart.  And on Sunday I begged to go back to Steak and Shake and see if we could see her again.  So, we sat in her section and ended up inviting her to Thanksgiving.  I'll never forget, she told us she had been in Oklahoma for 4 years and had never been in an American's home.  That broke my heart!  Not long after we met Apsara the Tsunami hit her country.  Because we had a connection with Apsara it really made us more tuned in and prayerful for the people of Sri Lanka when that tragedy struck.  Lord, help us to be mindful of the mission field we have right here in our backyard! 


                                    Daniel and Lee Cho enjoying Thanksgiving dinner.
                                                  Fall fun, jumping in the leaves!
                            Clara with her friends Stone & Amaiya, having some fall fun!
                                                   Our happy girl!
                                     Joe, Clara and Leo after a big Thanksgiving feast!

                                              Fancy Nancy at the Storybook Parade
                               Ahhhh....Kindergarten.....you gotta love 'em!